July 27, 2007 at 6:34 pm #105458goodluckfoxParticipant
Do we need a seperate “Health” forum, being tangentially related to what we’re doing here?
Ok. I’d like to talk to some other people about getting older. I’m 34. Now, that isn’t old, not at all. It could be said to be the prime of life… except that I think the prime of life is about 18 to 24.
I think that evolutionarily speaking, I’d be right there.
Anyway, I’ve noticed as I’ve gotten older than when I pee… I don’t have the force that I used to. I used to could piss like a russian race horse, as they say. Now, it’s just “meh.” I still get the job done, of course. But I used to could piss with “conviction” you know? And don’t get me started on the dribbles afterwards. Dammit, I was supposed to be DONE! And now I find myself with enough dribbling (this is NOT the same thing as “shaking off”) to, on some occaisions, dampen my underwear and my pants in a most embarassing manner.
Talk about humiliating. So far I’ve never been caught when this happens.
Also, I think I lack force to my ejaculation… I don’t remember what it was like when i was younger, since I was never particularly interested in going for any distance records. And of course, porn shouldn’t be one’s yardstick to go by… but even the amateur stuff shows guys (admittedly at least ten years younger than me) blasting away all over the place (or all over girl, actually).
And then there’s the refractory period *rolls eyes*. Ever heard that song “I’m not as good as I once was, but I’m as good just once as I ever was?” Yeah, I think I know what he means. Now, it’s been over a year since I’ve had sex with another person, so I’ve got no idea what whether things would be different, but I’m afraid of being too slow to reach arousal, have difficulty maintaining an erection, and take longer to recover between rounds.
I remember when I could work all day and have sex all night. Oh to be 19 again.
Even if my dad was still alive, i couldn’t talk to him about any of this. And you can’r really talk to your bar buddies, either.
From what I’ve been able to find, the things that I’m experiencing are considered “normal” and just a part of the aging experience. Everything still works the same, just at a somewhat diminished capcity. Dammit, i don’t want to piss my pants! I want to piss with conviction! If I ever do get to have sex with a woman again, I don’t want her to think “That’s it?”
Anybody got any comments? (besides “Dude, overshare!”)July 27, 2007 at 8:42 pm #112365imported_AdminParticipant
You should probably talk to you doctor and have your prostate checked. Also you had mentioned in a different post that you felt you were depressed and your medication was not working, you may want to speak to him about that as well.July 27, 2007 at 9:21 pm #112366volleyball_manParticipant I guess I’ll have to give up the conversation (and actions) about having a third child at age 43 (I’ll be 43 in November). 😆
I have a 4 year old and a 16 month old. I do the I’ll be x years old when they are participating in y sometimes. Oh well, guess I’ll have to stay healthy so I can teach em how to smack the “f” out of a volleyball or do a killer set of pullups.
At the risk of giving TMI (Too Much Info), my experience has been that “it” is better now than ever. The sense of urgency of early 20’s intimacy (if you can call it that) is not missed.
Let the Dr. tell you what to do regarding difficulty urinating. Some drugs have that as a side effect. Take any OTC (Over The Counter) allergy meds?
You can’t stop time, but you can live in the present.
I think I need a convertible.July 27, 2007 at 11:16 pm #112367Bri3626Participant
Yep definitely Doctor time. Prostate exam.
BPH or benign prostatic hypertrophy is your first thing to check.
And although rare in your age group the big C (cancer) is possible. Not meant to scare you but you cant see it and only your Doctor can tell you for sure. Looks like your gonna have to give some blood, get the dreaded digital rectal exam… etc…
Other things like blood flow issues that could be going on too.
But it’s important and you don’t want any of them to get worse…
Remember that commercial “Gotta go Gotta go Gotta go right now!” ???
That could happen if you got it.
Also, most men just don’t get hard when the wind blows (so to speak) as they age. In most cases it takes more stimulation which in the long run means more time in the sack with your signifant other!!! So good news!!
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